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I have heard a lot that a relationship in consulting can be very challenging. Working 5 days away from home and on top of some work when being at home gets me really thinking if consulting is the right choice for me. I definitely seek a relationship in my mid 20's to 30's.

Does anyone have advice on how you can manage that? Or if it's generally possible to be in a relationship when one of the two works in consulting? 

I definitely think that this would be an aspect that deletes consulting out of my career planning.


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Austin Denison
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Hi, Damian!

Relationships can be had and maintained in, essentially, any practice if enough care and attention are put into it, that is, if you focus on avoiding becoming distant to your significant other. However, there is no lying that in consulting, based on constant travel, workload, and other factors, it is difficult to maintain a relationship with as much vigor or passion as one might like.

Here is the key question you have to answer, what kind of consultant are you going to be? Are you going to work for any of the Big 4 or will you be working as an independent consultant? This question is key because, as an independent consultant, you get to schedule your own hours and you don't travel nearly as much, however, it takes either great business knowledge or lots of experience to become an independent consultant right off the bat.

Probably the best way you can become a great consultant and have a nice relationship is to focus on one thing at a time. Join the Big 4 for the experience and to build a portfolio of documented cases in which you provided value. Then leverage that portfolio to get you clients as an independent consultant! I see many consultants who use these large organizations for the experience to aid them in creating and understanding the consulting process, but once you understand it, you can do your own consulting, set your own hours, and have much more time to maintain your relationship.

Hope this helps,

-Austin Denison

(Denison Success Systems)

Philipp Borchardt
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Hi Damian,

The only advise I could give to you comes from my own experience.

I work internationnally since 2014 and until November last year I travelled almost on a weekly basis. Since than I stopped due to the birth of my second child but now I was long enough on the bench and I am ready to go back to business again. Of course our curent situation isn't helping but this is another subject.

What I could recomand you is to seek for a partner that can be 100% be trusted even if you have a busy lifestyle and to be yourself someone like this. There will be some days where you might not have time or the will to pass a phone call, I know familly is the most important but some days are really sh*t and when you go back to your hotel room after a gym session the only thing you want to do is having a meal and go to sleep. In this particular situation you need to have 100% trust in your partner, if you have to think if he/she is cheating on you or that you will have an argument because you didn't text him/her it will be parasiting for your business and your relationship.

This situation is just an example but I hope you understand what I mean.

A guy
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The motto I live by: DFAC

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The best thing I can add here is that you're doing the right thing by asking this question. I know that sounds a bit silly, but really! As everyone's situation (and those of their family, loved ones, etc.) are all so unique, the number one thing we can do is be mindful of the things like this that could potentially be draining. And if it's something that is on your mind sufficiently to put to question, then it's something that will ultimately be worth your time to consider, develop a plan defining what you view as criteria characteristic of a successful balance of work and family life, and then take time to truly assess the variance between your actual achievement of those goals and the criteria you set. Being mindful about it now will help set the stage for future success, and I wish you a lot of luck with it. Here's an article that Huffington Post published on this topic that I think you'll find a rewarding read:

Frankie J. Weinberg, MBA, Ph.D.
Distinguished Associate Professor of Management and
CEO and Founding Member, Leading Consultation International, LLC

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