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Amy
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Hey, so I started my job in a consultancy (I do not want ti name it, cause of obvious reasons) and since 2-3 weeks my boss put a lot of pressure on me. I'm not also talking about work he assigned to me but also the way he talks to me, I have to admit that I am intimidated by him... How to deal with such a boss? Should I look out for other jobs?
Any help is welcome, thanks!!!

Amy

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Robison
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Hi Amy,

If you are feeling a lot of pressure in working aspects, I'd say face it as long as it has something to offer. Even if its new and you have not done before. You might end up being recognised for taking up challenges in the future. A lot of us have faced difficulties in the beginning.

If you are intimidated by his personality and leadership styles, I'd say don't take it personally (not at all encouraging such leadership etiquettes). Work pressure can create a lot of commotion especially during this period along with the Pandemic.

Try to look at the silver lining as much as possible.

However, if you think that this leadership style is unethical, or might end up affecting you negatively in the future and it does not provide you with insight, growth and any development, may be that is not the best place for you.

Always remember, do not take things that happen at work personally, you never know what your boss might be going through, because I've seen leaders that come out pretty intimidating under pressure but, have a great personality when relaxed (not the best character trait). In such cases we gotta be flexible as possible.

May be one day when you reach the top of the ladder you can build on it and be fair to fellow colleagues.

Hope it helps.

Cheers.

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Philipp Borchardt
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Hi Amy,

 

It depends what is intimidating ou and if he is harassing you or not.

I know it's pretty difficult to speak about these kind of situations but if you really don't feel comfortable with him or his management you have to first identify why. I am psychologist since 7 years now and have seen a lot difficult situations, some were solved easily (by putting a "do not disturb" sign on the door 1 hour a day to be able to focus on work) others with a lawyer...

What is it what makes you feel unconfortable with him?

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Amy
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Thanks for the fast answers!

Actually his life-sentence could be defined by leading through power. I think in our days this trend should become more and more descending. To give examples, raising his voice, not thinking about thoughtful arguments of mine and just really looking down on me is common. Actually I already heard that he has spoken negatively about others ... So it doesn't affect only me.

I mean on the workside, there are really challenging projects for me, which I really like in general but his way of leading our consultancy (small consultancy) is affecting my work quite a lot. I have to say I am not the most self-confident person and didn't stand up to him in some situations, that's just not me. :/

Also having talked to other friends a career change to another consultancy could be a good option. Or does anyone maybe have tips on how there could be a chance of staying there?

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Philipp Borchardt
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Hi Amy,

 

It's nice to read from you.

I know perfectly these kind of situations, your boss might be very insecure in his position, does he have all the necessary  to manage your consultancy? Does he get a lot of pressure from his hierarchy? Is he going through personnal problems?

Every problem is a great opportunity to search a solution and to improve yourself.

You can try some tricks, first, (please don't fall from your chair) try to seduce him 😉 In an elegant way of course, don't invite him for a "morning meeting" in a hotel room.

When you come into your office and you see him being stressed tell him something like :"Already a tough day isn't it? or What are they making you do? (refering to the hierearchy) Come lets have a cofee, I pay for it." I don't say that it is going to work on 100% percent but it might be a beginning to build a relationship. Moreover, he will not feel responsable for his behaviour as it is due to the stressing environment and you are offering a helping hand wich could be a good opportuinity for you to make your work more valuable.

 

What dou you think about it?

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